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how the tide shifts: the generational cycle at work before our very eyes

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This is how it works. No one may be actually literally thinking, Damn, we really screwed up with those Xer kids, better get this new batch right. Because the “we” is us. It’s Xers having the babies now and looking back, maybe, at our own childhoods and the societal crap we’ve dealt with throughout out lives and saying, You know what? No kid of mine is gonna have to put up with that kind of shit. And probably no one is thinking that in a literal and absolute way, either -- it’s just how stuff starts to feel, as we look around at the world and see the mess that has resulted from everything that’s been going on for the last 30 years or so.

That kind of feeling started to build slowly in the 80s, of course, as the oldest Xers were entering late adolescence/early adulthood and were horrifying their elders with their extreme sports and their cynical attitudes -- that was when older generations took stock of Xers and started to wonder if baby-rearing couldn’t be done differently, and better, than they’d done with us. That was when we started seeing “Baby on Board” signs on cars, for instance, replacing, say, the “devil baby” movies of a decade earlier.

If that was the beginning of the pendulum swing, then the pendulum is reaching the far side of the swing now. It’s as if our entire culture is crying out as one, “Think of the children!”

Examples:

• Xers (born 1961ish to 1981ish) and early Millennials (born 1982-ish to 2001-ish) had a cartoon Joe Camel selling us cigarettes. The new generation -- the Boomer-run Generation Watch suggests calling them the Homeland Generation, which sounds pretty good to me -- the eldest of whom are preschoolers, is now being looked out for even by the freakin’ tobacco companies, as an article in this past Sunday’s New York Times Magazine states: Steve Parrish, senior vice president for corporate affairs at Altria Group, which used to be called Philip Morris, “says that it is important to keep kids from starting to smoke.” And new innovations in the tobacco industry, like “smokeless products,” which is far less dangerous than cigarettes, are to be approached with extreme caution, because they “might get kids hooked on nicotine and then allow them to ‘graduate’ to cigarettes.” This is the industry that, just ten years ago, the article states, had to be dragged kicking and screaming to make public-health concessions -- today, it’s taking a lead on such issues. (The article suggests that there are plenty of ulterior motives beyond pure benevolence behind Altria’s stance, but the fact that it couches its message as a “think of the children” thing hints that that’s what the public wants to hear today.)

• Also from the New York Times Magazine: Two Sundays ago, it devoted its entire issue to debt -- public debt, personal debt, all of it, and how it’s on the verge of sinking America into a massive economic disaster. Xers? We’re Generation Debt, according to one book; another book, Strapped, explains “Why America’s 20- and 30-Somethings Can’t Get Ahead,” and it has nothing to do with us being slackers. There’s an interesting interview with Strapped author Tamara Draut at Alternet that recaps her argument, but all you need to do is read the reader comments posted in response to see that Xers are still considered mostly to blame for whatever predicament we may be in: we broke it, basically, we bought it, even if the economic conditions that we’re forced to live with are not our doing.

But now, when it comes to our juniors, it’s time for everyone to be concerned. One article in the Times Magazine details the financial woes of college kids -- who are Millennials today -- who get hooked on Internet gambling. The focus of the piece isn’t a slacker or a loser or some bad seed: he’s a good kid, dammit, “a minister’s eldest son” fer pete’s sake. But no kid is safe from this pernicious threat, the purveyors of which prey on the young and the innocent: maybe it’s a bad idea, the author states, to put high-speed Net access in dorm rooms; after all, “administrators would never consider letting Budweiser install taps in dorm rooms”!

Another chapter in the debt issue is all about student debt. What’s it called? “Forgive Us Our Student Debts”! Not the debts already incurred by, for instance, those in their late 20s, 30s, and early 40s -- no. Future student debt, that which will be incurred by Millennials and Homelanders. Why? “The view that today’s student debt may have explosive consequences for society seems to be gaining support in some quarters.” Xers may be the ones getting hit by the shrapnel of that explosion, but there’s no discussion whatsoever of helping us out. It’s all about the children. The piece mentions the Gates Millennium Scholarship program, which started in 1999, just in time to help Millennial students, and covers any outstanding costs after scholarships, meaning that the recipients of Gates’s largesse pay nothing for college. “The people who don’t have to worry about debt, like the Gates cohort,” says Ed St. John, an educator working with the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, in the article, “are making life choices that are more contingent with their interest rather than to the market.” How nice for them.

Now, don’t get me wrong -- I think it’s fantastic that there may not be another generation that has to deal with the monster of student-loan debt. I’m not complaining -- really, I’m not (and I’ll get to why in a bit). But I do find it absolutely riveting to watch how attitudes about just about everything having to do with how we raise kids are changing seeming so quickly.

• It’s time to rethink how we feed our babies. “Breast-Feed or Else” is the unambiguous headline of a recent Washington Post article:

Warning: Public health officials have determined that not breast-feeding may be hazardous to your baby's health....

A two-year national breast-feeding awareness campaign that culminated this spring ran television announcements showing a pregnant woman clutching her belly as she was thrown off a mechanical bull during ladies' night at a bar — and compared the behavior to failing to breast-feed.

"You wouldn't take risks before your baby's born," the advertisement says. "Why start after?"

Senator Tom Harkin, Democrat of Iowa, has proposed requiring warning labels, on cans of infant formula and in advertisements, similar to the those on cigarettes. They would say that the Department of Health and Human services has determined that "breast-feeding is the ideal method of feeding and nurturing infants" or that "breast milk is more beneficial to infants than infant formula."

Child-rearing experts have long pointed to the benefits of breast-feeding. But critics say the new campaign has taken things too far and will make mothers who cannot breast-feed, or choose not to, feel guilty and inadequate.

Of course, I doubt there’s ever been any real debate over the fact that breastfeeding is how babies were meant to be fed, but our society has not made that easy... and this example of the pendulum swing is especially scary. Will this cry of “think of the children” result in government and corporate policies that will make it easier for working women to breastfeed (like, oh, on-site daycare that allows women to be near their infants during working hours), or easier for families to make do with only one salary if they so choose. Or will it be, as my friend Bonnie pointed out, “another step towards The Handmaid's Tale”:

more likely it will be "breast feeding is good for our most precious resource -- the future generation. working and breast feeding are not compatible. it is not right for women to deprive our children of the benefits of breast feeding... therefore, women should not work while their children need to be breast-fed."

• It’s time to rethink how we feed everyone. High-fructose corn syrup -- a product of argricultural subsidies that benefitted enormous corporate factory farms, encouraged them to produce vast quantities of corn -- started being used as a sweetener in just about every kind of processed food in the mid to late 1970s. Which may be a major contributing factor to the obesity epidemic (the National Soft Drink Association disagrees, of course). And who’s getting fattest? Why, Xers, naturally (or unnaturally, as the case may be):

Generation x-tra large: Americans getting fatter younger, study finds

PHILADELPHIA -- (June 18, 2002) Americans are getting fatter at younger ages, and the percentage of adults who are actually obese doubled since the 1960s, according to a new study of 9,179 U.S. adults.
The study, "The Natural History of the Development of Obesity in a Cohort of Young U.S. Adults Between 1981 and 1998," appears in the June 18, 2002, issue of Annals of Internal Medicine.

The study of found:

=Twenty-six percent of men and 28 percent of women were obese by the time they were 35 to 37.
=Young adults are becoming obese faster. People born in 1964 became obese 26 percent to 28 percent faster than those born in 1957.

And more:

GENERATION Xs are at risk of dying before their parents with a new Australian study showing they are becoming obese faster than any other age group.

The Sydney University study found adults born between 1966 and 1970 were putting on weight more rapidly than baby boomers and adults of the pre-war generations.

And so now that we’re all so fat we’re killing ourselves, we have a book like Michael Pollan’s brand-new Omnivore's Dilemma, part of which is about how we omnivores have become a kind of univore, with the standard American diet consisting, in a large percentage, on corn, in one form or another (and very little of it in any form recognizable as, you know, corn).

And -- it must be reiterated -- it is Xers, in large part, leading much of this new “think of the children” thing. (Super Size Me, which also railed against fake corporate “food” contributing to our poor collective health, is by Xer Morgan Spurlock, for instance.) Tons of examples abound in the public sphere, like Angelina Jolie giving money to poor babies and new celebrity dad Jack Black fretting over how to protect his precious little one (“I’m already having headaches like, ‘Where is he going to go to pre-school? Am I gonna put cameras in every room of my house to spy on babysitters to make sure that they don't shake the baby?’”)

Hell, there’s a celebrity baby boom going on -- it’s fashionable and hip to have a baby now. And, ohmigod, there’s actually a Celebrity Baby Blog.

Now, is all this protectionism a 100-percent good thing? I don’t think so, and other Xers agree with me. Mike, the 30something lawyer who blogs at Mike’s Neighborhood, posted “Sex, Drugs & Shopping” recently:

An article from late last week, from the "HealthDay News," reports that risky health behaviors are down among American teens. While the panoply of activities comprising "risky" behaviors is nowhere laid out in-full, the article alludes to some: dangerous driving; sexual activity; tobacco, drug & alcohol use; violence & fighting; obesity; and "couch-potato behaviors," such as watching too much television.

Now I'm the first to applaud any change in teen behavior that reduces incessant television watching & obesity, but frankly, when teenagers report engaging in less sex, fighting, drinking, smoking and driving like a maniac, I have to ask: then What The Hell Are They Doing? If you remove these activities, what's left? Sleeping, studying & . . . let's call it "self-help"? Watching a little television? Shopping?

Seriously, though, I have to ask three questions: What does it mean for our future to raise such a risk-averse generation? What are they doing instead? And, notice that excessive consumerism isn't on the list?

Risk-Aversion: Obviously one wants to live in a society where random fights between men don't break out over each disagreement. It's good not to worry that a car'll cross the divider at 90 M.P.H. and plow into you. But most adults avoid such behavior because they learned the dangers. I was a 16 year-old boy. I know what 16 year-old boys do when they get behind the wheel. Like most, I narrowly escaped death-by-flaming wreck a couple times, due to my own skill, that of the other drivers, and mostly good old Luck. Like everyone, I know someone or a few someones who left us a dozen-or-so years ago because their luck failed them.

But I, and everyone else who survived, learned what not to do and why.

There’s much more, and it’s a good read.

And then there’s the voice of Generation X, Mark Morford, who, in a column entitled “Walt Disney Stalks Your Child: Now even kids have GPS cell phones. So much for running away from home,” shared this child-of-the-80s wisdom:

It was perfect. We were, I believe, less than one mile from home. But it might as well have been the moon because no one knew where we were. The devil had yet to invent cell phones or GPS or implantable RFID chips and hence it was still possible to get away and, for all intents and purposes, vanish from the face of the Earth. Ah, the glory of it.

We leaned some planks up against a tree. We found a beat-up tarp for a doorway. We collected nails and hunks of scrap wood (for ammo) and dug in. There was a small market right nearby (excellent strategic planning on our part -- access to cheap candy was, like, right there) and we stocked up on supplies: one box of Honeycomb, four generic grape sodas, a large bag of potato chips. We had 75 cents left over for, you know, emergencies....

I now guesstimate that our radical rebellion lasted roughly six hours. During this time, I do believe my parents had no idea where I was. Not only that, but when I returned, they didn't even realize I had gone. I remember this being rather humiliating, because if there's one thing worse than failing in your defiance of authority, it's having authority smile warmly when you walk back in the door and offer you a bowl of hot macaroni and cheese with little bits of cut-up hot dogs in it. Bastards!

Alas, it is but a faint memory. And it's also a scenario that might well be disappearing from the face of the culture. No more tiny but fiercely independent romps into the unknown for modern postmillenn

Again, there’s much more from Morford (I don’t like to steal page views from fellow online writers), so go check it out.

There’s an independent spirit to Generation X that is not going to reassert itself in today’s children. They’re be safe, maybe... but they’ll be conventional and lacking a sense of adventure. And I’m not sure that that’s entirely a good thing.

But it’s happening right in front of our eyes... no, we’re making it happen right in front of our eyes.

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16 Comments

Thus I sit here, a generation X-Y cusp-er, and watch the world shift without me.
Hey, we're *all* shifting, whether you like it or not. Try to fight it: you'll be pissing in the wind.
MaryAnn- Hey, thanks for including my curmugeonly rant in your piece! I enjoyed your post, and obviously I agree. Good site in general by the way. I'll be back. Mike
More reasons for me to continue to despise Boomers. As a debt free, Gen X, stay-at-home Dad watching out for two kids under 5, I do what I can to make sure that they eat right, like avoiding getting addicted to HFCS like I did. But there's no way I'm going to give these self-appointed representatives of the Nanny State any creedence. Theirs is the generation that never accepts responsibility for their mistakes. It's always someone else's fault and thus they need to sue the offending party to pay for their crimes. And then they lobby state and federal legislatures to ban bad behaviors or curtail certain freedoms for "the sake of the children" or "the common good." In the truest spirit of "Father Knows Best", they're telling the younger generations of parents how to raise their kids. Well, I'll give them a little bit of TV right back, "Eat my shorts!" \_/ DED
Do we know that it's Boomers, or exclusively Boomers, who are foisting the nanny state on us? I'm not sure that it is...
Great posting, MaryAnn. And I'm sad to say that, no, I don't think it's Boomers leading the charge on this. I think it's GenX'ers leading the charge with Boomers acting as enthusiastic and probably unintentional cheerleaders. And before anyone throws Molotov cocktails at my characterization of Xers, keep in mind that I'm one too, and my eyes are wide open about typical Xer bad points as well as good ones, both my own and others. My sister will be our test case, and I'd bet she's fairly typical. She IS a fairly typical X'er, in that she's artistic and enthusiastic, but also self-absorbed, lazy, and cheefully uninformed about the world around her. She's not adverse to working if she has to, but would much rather get a free ride from someone else, and has no shame in doing so when she can. She spent ten years preparing for and then going to vet school (at the expense of others), practiced as a vet for one year, then discovered that if she had a baby, she stood to get a sizeable inheritance from our grandmother. She immediately got pregnant (if you have two hours, she'll explain to you at length the many health reasons that made this a VERY bad idea, but apparently the money reasons overrode those). My niece is adorable and now four years old, and my sister hasn't worked a full day since. She and her husband bought an enormous new house and she made it clear to me that the inheritance made THAT possible, too. My mother (my niece's grandmother) is an *extremely* typical Boomer, with everything that implies. Now we come to the crux of your post. My darling niece is not allowed to ride in any car that does not weigh at least 5000 pounds. I wish I were kidding. Both my mother's car and my car are mid-size cars with outstanding safety ratings. My mother's had one car accident in 40+ years of driving. I've also had only one accident, and have taken a couple hundred hours of driving classes. Doesn't matter. She's not allowed to ride with either of us unless we drive my sister's enormous SUV. My mother is now abetting this behavior by trading in her very economical car for another enormous SUV. Other safety concerns swirl around my adorable little niece in equal measure, with my mom providing support for every one of my sister's decrees. The two of them about had a conniption when one of my dogs licked her face. Their panic sent my niece into a panic, turning what should have been a routine childhood canine encounter (and heaven forfend, maybe a lifelong relationship with dogs) into a nightmare experience. My niece now doesn't like dogs and refuses to associate with mine. It seems increasingly likely that she will be home-schooled or at worst sent to a private school. And is she spoiled? Oh MY, yes. My grandfather fought at Kassarine Pass, at Anzio, at Normandy. As a child, my mother went white-water rafting down one of the most dangerous rivers in California in a plastic inflatable tube. She went bicycling down the side of a mountain long before there was such a thing as a "mountain bike." I took fishing trips by myself on the same river, often camping out overnight. After I turned 17, I summered for a month every year for several years in Mexico, often bumming around with nothing more than a backpack. My sister and I have gone freehand rock-climbing over waterfalls and rocky beaches. My darling niece might -- maybe -- one day see the inside of a subcompact car and freaks out when any dog of more than 20# approaches her. I wish I could blame this entirely on Boomers, but *I* sure can't.
Boomers are the ones in charge these days. They occupy most of the positions of power responsible for the Nanny State (gov't, media, special interest groups). Jester, your sister doesn't sound like a "typical" X-er so much as a historical example of a "gold digger," a stereotype that's been around for centuries, if not millenia. And it also sounds like she drank the proverbial Kool Aid of Fear the Nanny State offered her. I hope for the best for your niece. Perhaps, her aunt will have the chance to be a positive role model. Yes, I'm guilty of a sweeping generalizations here and exceptions to a general rule will be found, but the fact of the matter is that the Nanny State was creeated by, and perpetuated by, Boomers.
But the Nanny State wouldn't work without the cooperation of the Xers who are raising the children these days. I don't think there's any one group that's to blame -- it's a confluence of attitudes emerging from multiple generations. My Xer brother and his Xer wife have two SUVs because they think they're safer for driving their kids around, too, and yes, their kids are ridiculously spoiled. (Their dogs, though, are fully a part of their family and are allowed to lick the kids.) Part of why the generational cycle works is because people look back at how they were raised and say, Not my kids! So Xers, who were raised in permissive environments in which children were not overtly protected don't want their kids to be latchkeyers who are home by themselves all the time, or Xer parents vow not to divorce and stay together for the kids, unlike what their parents did. Xers were raised the way we were because our parents, who were mostly Silents, were themselves smothered and overprotected and children, and because they didn't like it, they vowed not to raise their kids that way. It's a pendulum: Xers are creating the next Silent-type generation right now. And those new Silents will raise the next Xer types. Unless the bird flu kills us all, or global civilization collapses as the oil runs out and the atmosphere heats up. Then all bets are off.
The next generation isn't a generation of Silents. Far from it. The next generation is another generation of *Boomers*. Conspicuous consumption, self-absorption, and entitlement disease will be the norm.
Good points all, that's for sure. But let's not forget a salient point about we Xers: there aren't very many of us, relatively speaking. We're sandwiched between the late Boomers, and Gen Y, or the first kids of the early boomers. My parents, and many of yours I'm sure, weren't Boomers, but members of the so-called Lost Generation, born during the Depression & WWII. This generation gave us *no* presidents, for instance. Carter & Bush I? "Greatest Generation" members. Clinton & Bush II? Boomers. What's that all mean? Not totally clear, and I don't like to generalize too much regarding demographic cohorts. But to me, there are two factor that inform the Gen X experience: 1. Our limited numbers, which explain achievements writ small, but very little chance to exert leverage. We, too, won't have a Prez. Gen Y/Generation Homeland will. 2. The historical facts that informed our childhood are the very predicates that gave rise to the famous Gen X "Irony." These historical markers? Loss in a War; presidential resignation in disgrace; economic disaster; hostages held in a relative backwater. Leading to ---> Uncle Ronnie. Simply put, folks. There ain't many of us, and those that "are" are fucked up. Not pretty.
Don't rule Xers out in high-level leadership roles. As MaryAnn has pointed out, Xers are already replacing Boomers in large numbers in business leadership roles. And Joe Klein just pointed out two weeks ago that our two Boomer Presidents have been busts, so it might be time for an Xer President (the article was about Barrack Obama). I've pointed out in my business dealings to other Xers that Boomers don't make very good senior business leaders because they don't think more than a quarter ahead and look to Wall Street for instructions on what they should be doing. Xer business leaders have a longer view and a tendency to "opt out" of watching Wall Street every single day to see what we should be doing. It's that whole "challenge authority!" thing. ;-)
Well, we'll at least one more Boomer president. I don't see any X-ers with enough money, fame, or political clout to even run in 2008. I like what I've seen so far in Obama, but he needs some more seasoning. MaryAnn: My father, a Silent who wasn't very silent and still isn't, was certainly guilty of "Not My Kid." His father died young and his mother couldn't control him so he was a "wild boy" growing up in Detroit and dropped out of high school. He eventually regretted it, so he made it a point to make sure that I didn't repeat his mistakes. He overdid it, but I'll spare you the details. So, the natural inclination would be for me to take it easy on my son. But that's not going to be the case. While I won't be the tyrant my father was, I'm not going to let my son (or my daughter) turn into a couch potato either. He's even going to have to mow the lawn, something I don't see kids doing anymore. It's all lawn services! But my point is, I intend to avoid that generational repeat you're referring to. Jester: I definitely agree with you regarding the shortsightedness problem, and that spills over into the culture as well. I haven't been able to discern yet if this is generational problem, or a national problem, but people seem to be living in the moment. Everyone forgets the past and can't see too far ahead. Politicians get re-elected because people can't keep track of what they did a year or two ago. The national savings rate has been falling so far that it's gone to zero. And is anyone saving for retirement? Mike: You summed up the historical markers quite nicely. Boomers grew up with the "Cuban Missile Crisis" and "Duck and Cover". But when Ronnie started talking about the "Evil Empire" I was convinced that I wouldn't live to see 30. But now, with the Never Ending War on Terror, "Post 9/11 thinking", and catchy jingoistic slogans disguised as patriotism that consumes this country's elected officials, I wonder if my kids will live to see 30.
Okay--from a Millenial perspective (born in '92), I really don't see the problem here. Just because kids are becoming safer doesn't mean they'll become complacent and hate adventure. In fact, the more sheltered they are, the more kids will want to act out and do stuff on their own. Now I'm the first to applaud any change in teen behavior that reduces incessant television watching & obesity, but frankly, when teenagers report engaging in less sex, fighting, drinking, smoking and driving like a maniac, I have to ask: then What The Hell Are They Doing? If you remove these activities, what's left? Sleeping, studying & . . . let's call it "self-help"? Watching a little television? Shopping? The internet, of course. That and hanging out with friends, going to the movies or the beach, working out, reading, listening to iPods...if there is one thing that is different about the new generations, it's the Digital Age. They've started making iPods for babies! And I guess you could link that to a consumerism problem as well.
Some day all this generation X, Y and Z nonsense is going to seem as silly as the racial rhetoric that was popular with American intellectuals back in the 1920s. In light of recent events in most major cities involving the largest political demonstrations since the 1960s, it seems especially silly. American society is changing--but not necessarily in the way you think...
"The next generation isn't a generation of Silents. Far from it. The next generation is another generation of *Boomers*. Conspicuous consumption, self-absorption, and entitlement disease will be the norm." Nope. The new Silents are babies now -- they've just started being born. Mayebt the Millennials, who are now mostly ranging from kindergartners to high schoolers, will be more consumerist than the Boomers, but look at the major difference: The Boomers are consumerist now; they weren't as children. Can you imagine these conformist kids today launching an Age of Aquarius? No freakin' way. "We're sandwiched between the late Boomers, and Gen Y, or the first kids of the early boomers. My parents, and many of yours I'm sure, weren't Boomers, but members of the so-called Lost Generation, born during the Depression & WWII." No, most Xers are the children of Silents, born between 1920-ish and 1944-ish, and early Boomers, the ones born in the immediate postwar period. The Lost Generation were born between (around) 1880 and 1900 or so. They were the parents of Greatest Generation and the early Silents. "In light of recent events in most major cities involving the largest political demonstrations since the 1960s, it seems especially silly." But what social impact have those demonstrations had? Almost none. It's nothing like the 1960s. Nothing. Numbers aren't the measure -- impact is.
On presidents: There were no Silent presidents. There were Lost presidents: Truman and Eisenhower. And the Xer presidents will be men or women who show extraordinary leadership during the coming crisis. They'll be the Ikes of the 2020s.

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