Nerds make better lovers?

My first reaction: Great, now us gal geeks have more competition from the popular girls:

"A nerd is an excellent provider and a guy who puts you first," says E. Jean Carroll, Elle magazine's love and sex advice columnist. "He'll turn out to be a great father and a great husband."

And, she insists that a woman who is willing to stick it out with a nerd and get past his quirks will be handsomely rewarded. "Don't give up on him too fast," she said. "If you stick with him, he's going to turn out to be really great."

Of course, the article assumes that there are no gal geeks:

But to get to that authentic nerd, chic women have to be willing to embrace their own inner geek and accept the guy for who he is, chess trophies and all.

No girl would ever have a chess trophy on her shelf, I guess... at least no girl worth mentioning.

[from the New York Daily News]

I dunno: Is a geek guy merely just a new accessory for a fabulous fashionable girl to hang on her arm? Or does this hint at a new appreciation for the geek lifestyle? This doesn’t give me a lot of hope -- Beauty and the Geek? Can’t girl geeks be beautiful? Don’t the people behind this embarrassment realize that no genuinely geeky guy will be satisfied with a woman with an IQ lower than what she tells everyone her shoe size is?

The Daily News article does mention what could be a valuable resource for lovelorn geeks of all genders: Geek2Geek, a dating site that matches folks up based on their favorite board games and gadgets and such. But girl geeks already knew how hot it could be to find a guy who likes to Fluxx.

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by Adam on June 25, 2005 8:26 PM

Seriously - I'm a male geek, and I'm pretty much only attracted to female geeks. Which, unfortunately, *are* fairly rare, but not totally nonexistent. P.S. Fluxx is indeed awesome. I need to play that more often.

by Isobel on June 26, 2005 11:00 AM

I am suddenly thinking of that 19th-century novel my mother forced on me recently. The basic plot of which(well, it's only part of the plot, but that's another story): Girl meets boy. Boy is real geek, which in the 18th/19th century means he likes looking at bugs under microscopes and similar. Boy gets girl hooked on his hobbies, until she turns into real geek("A bluestoking," her step-mother disdainfully calls her, a common insult of the time for girls too intelligent). Then very silly boy falls madly in love with girl's drop-dead-gorgeous fashionable step-sister and gets kinda-engaged to her before going off to Africa on scientific expedition. Then he writes his letters, girl reads more of them than step-sister, because they're so geeky step-sister can't understand what he's talking about! In similar manner, girl writes better letters to boy than step-sister. So eventually step-sister breaks it off and boy doesn't mind because he's realized he was really in love with girl the entire time.(If only!) But the interesting thing is: everyone we're supposed to even partly sympathize with agrees that boy is most decent, finest man ever, and the girl who gets to marry him is extremely lucky. And though he's a younger son(read: no inheritance), he ends up being a good catch financially because he becomes a professor at a highly-lauded institution. In other words, this isn't the first time people have realized that geeks are really much better boys than one realizes.

by LVJeff on June 26, 2005 11:28 AM

"No girl would ever have a chess trophy on her shelf, I guess... at least no girl worth mentioning." I thought the same thing while reading the article -- that it makes a rather gross assumption that geeks are only male. There's another level to climb here, one that acknowledges that girls geeks are just as attractive as guy geeks for mostly the same reasons, but maybe skewing more to the idea that such intelligent gals are generally down-to-earth and independent, and that is pretty danged sexy. Also, Tiger Woods is not a geek. Sorry, he plays golf and is considered an athlete. Did anyone think Jack Nicklaus was a geek?

by David C on June 26, 2005 1:19 PM

Yeah, I mean, the whole article seems (to me, based on reams of empirical evidence) to be based on a false premise - that women are falling all over geeks. Which only seems to be true for extremely elastic definitions of "geek."

by Ealasaid on July 12, 2005 3:24 PM

Feh, that article made me sneer. It also made me write a snippy letter to the author (not a complete waste of time, as I blogged it). I get so ticked off by stuff like that. If you don't like geeks, don't "stick with" one until you "get past" his geekiness. Go date a frat boy and quit dallying with the poor geek's heart! Sheesh! I mean, I'm all in favor of getting over prejudice, but not if you're only trying to do it 'cos dating a geek is trendy. Give me a break.

by K. on January 8, 2006 4:05 AM

I myself found the article a little offensive in some places and in other places just plain ridiculous. I do that somewhat geeky guys have become a status symbol for a certain type of woman (not the cheerleader type, more the slightly edgy punk rock ones). Oh, and no self-respecting geek would go on that asinine T.V. program.

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